Sunday, July 19, 2009

Baby Steps

Will is in a "phase" that when I tell him he can't do something/tell him no/be a parent, he tells me I'm a bad mommy. It's only a phase cause kids grow out of that. Right?

Will loves having things explained to him and LOVES to ask endless questions about any topic. Especially ones that you know nothing about or say thought for sure no one could come up with three questions about that, let alone twenty.

Anyway, I've been trying to use his love of explanation instead of say disciple for saying something like, you are the worst mommy ever. So we have had many discussions about how that hurts my feelings and makes me feel bad. And you can be upset with someone, but you don't have to say things that hurt their feelings.

So I'm trying to decide if the following encounter should be considered a sign of progress. I'm pretty sure it is a sign that he was listening, and that's a good first step, I think.

I made Will come in from playing outside because his friend had to go in. He got very upset and ran and hid under a blanket in the living room. After a few minutes of over exaggerated emotion he poked his head out from under the blanket.

"Mommy, I love you so much. But I'm sorry you are a bad mommy."


Tom said...

Awesome. He loves you despite your flaws, how selfless.

Kari said...

I didn't think of it that way Tom. Thanks for the new perspective :)

The Mathews Family said...

Okay, that cracked me up! It shows you're doing a good job that you're not the kind of mom that caves in and just does whatever it takes to make her kids "happy". Your little guy sounds hilarious!

Swede_Lady said...

He is ever so considerate even if sometimes it seems to be hypocritical (from the adult perspective). He's a soft-hearted kooky kid and I love him!

Wade The Rascal said...

I'm taking lessons from you on how to raise my kid. Keep up the excellent work Kari.

Bob said...

I have good news and bad news: the good news is you 're making progress on bringing up a considerate kid. The bad news is that sometimes they stop thinking your a bad mother when they're say, 20.